Aston, aged 8, is a kind, shy kid who loves animals, Lego and playing Minecraft. He also loves his big brother, Flynn, aged 11. Their bond transcends that of most siblings, as Flynn acts as Aston’s carer, alongside their mum Haeli Walker.
Aston’s diagnoses of autism, epilepsy and learning delays mean he needs 24/7 care. Haeli juggles a career as a support worker, assists Aston with twice-daily medications, driving to medical appointments, personal care and advocating via the NDIS. It’s an exhausting role, and one she would struggle to maintain without Flynn, who helps Aston dress, do his homework, and help calm him down when he’s upset.
“My caring role looking after my brother is hard,” Flynn said. “But I love my brother and the time we spend together.” Flynn is supported with school equipment and supplies, and access to young carer events to connect with peers.
VMCH’s Carer Services team helps Haeli and Flynn so that they can continue to be there for Aston. The 24-member team focuses on the health and wellbeing of the carer and offers education and information, personal care, flexible respite and special events.
It is estimated there are around 71,600 young carers in Victoria, although VMCH case manager Nicola Mallinson believes the number could be double this, and having support tailored to young people is vital. “Young carers face challenges and have experiences that are like no other young person.”
She describes young carers as “legends”. “They may not have always consciously made the choice to step up and take on more responsibilities, but they’re showing up each day and making sure the people they love are able to get through with a bit more ease,” she said.
October 13-19 is National Carers Week.
Photo: Haeli, Flynn and Aston Walker